“Gensiatna pen a lim mahmah an tawh a kibang hi a, mihingte’ sungtawng pekah tumsuk pahpah hi” – Paunak 26: 22
An lim mahmah kinial mawh hi. Lai Siangtho nangawn in an lim mahmah tawh a na genteh liang Gensiatna pen hi leitungah bei ngeilo dinga, pelh I sawm hang I pelh thei kei ding hi. Mi gensia loin, paubanglo na hi phial zongin gensiatna na tuak veve ding hi.
Namsau pen a zang siamlo khat adingin lauhuai mahmah napi a zangsiam khat aa dingin manpha mahmah hi. Tuamah bangin gensiatna zong I zatsiam kei leh siatna kipatna hong hi ding a, I zat siam naak leh thumanpha tampi hong tun zawsop thei hi. Bangci zangsiam dinga, bangci laksiam ding misiamte genna zui-in kikum dih ni.
“Gensiatna na pelhnop leh, bangmah sem kenla, bangmah gen kei in, tualeh bangmah na hi kei ding hi” E.M. Forster na ci geu hi. Suangtumpi I hih kei buang leh kipelh theilo ding dan hih tuak hi. Eleanor Roosevelt in bang na gen hiam cih leh, “maan mah hi ci a na lungsim tawh na khensatsa sem in; ahi zongin gensiatna na tuak veve ding hi. Na sep leh hong kigensia ding a, na sep kei leh nang le nang na kigensia ding hi.” Gensiat ding a kihta hi leh Jesu khris leitungah hong pai khollo ding hi.
Gensiatna a om ciangin azang(gensia pa/nu) om cihna hi a, athuak(gensiat pa/nu) zong a om kisam hi. Zatsiam dan leh thuak/laak siam dan gen dih ni.
Gensiatna Zatsiam dan:
I lungsim ah hong sun velval na khat peuhpeuh I tuahkhak ciangin I kam tawh i genkhia pah a, phalbi mau mah bangin I puakkham phangphang hi. Barry Gibbs in, “a gensia dingin na kigingkhol ngei kei hi” na ci se hi. Mi I gensiat ding ciang limtak thu ngaihsunin kigingkhol masa leng bel kimang bilbel zawsop mah ding hiven!
English literature vam mahmahna hang khat pen critics(a phalama gensiate)te hang kici hi. Thului, laibu khat peuhpeuh pen limtak veel uh a, a hoih lohna sante a gensiat ngam mah bangun a hoih omsunte zong phat ding mangngilh lo uh hi. Mary Kay Ash in, “na gensiat ding thu khat peuhpeuh pen phatna kammal tawh pan masa in la, phat kammal mah tawh khup bawl in” na ci hi.
Mikangten gensiatna pen nam nih: constructive criticism leh destructive criticism in na khen bawl uh hi. A hoih ding deihna, bawlphat nopna, puahphat nopna lungsim tawh gensiatna pen constructive criticism kici a, mimal ah tu loin a gen/gelh kammalzaw pen kigensia(critic) hi. Margaret Chase Smith in, “constructive criticism pen lamet bek ding hilo, a ngeta nget ngiat ding hizaw” ci-in na phatbawl hi.
Destructive criticism leuleu pen huatna leh hazatna tawh kikosiatna kammalte pawl ahi hi. A mimal mahmah neubawl nopna, suksiat nopna paa ahih manin siahuai mahmah a, a saangte adingin zong thuaklah huai mahmah hi. Hibang kigensiatnate pawl pen mi kiphasakte in limzat phadiak uh hi. A ciing I om khak zenzen leh: “Khuamial samsiat sangin khuaimei vakpakna manphazaw tham hi” Sente’ paunak in na ci hi.
Gensia nuamte adingin hih a nuaia thute phawk huai hi:
Na gen/gelhkhiat sawm pen na theitel takpi mah hiam ngaihsun phakik in.
Lungsim tak tawh citak pha mahmahin gen/gelh in.
Muhdahna, neusekna, zahkona leh samsiatna kammalte pawl pelh sawm hamtang in.
A gen/gelh kammal bekah tu(focus) in la, a mimalin kuamah sukha peuhmah ken.
Na sinsat laitak ahi a, zingsang thawh na tuakloh laitak ahi zongin kuamah gensia ken, kideek keeikaai in.
Phatbawl masa lecin na gennop hong saang siamzaw ding hi.
“Mi khempeuh in gensiatna, mawhsakna leh phunsanna kammalte zang thei lel uh e, mihaite in uuk pha diak uh hi” – Benjamin Franklin
Gensiatna laksiam dan:
“Mi’n I hih lohnapi hong gensiat leh I hih lohna hi lel hiven heh huai lo hi: I hihna hong kigensiat leh zong I hihna hi lel hiven, heh tuan kei ni” – Rev. Dr. JM Paupu
“Mi tawmcik bek in amau siatna ding phatkhemna kammalte sangin amau’ hoihna ding gensiatna kammalte teelna mel thei uh hi” – Francois La Rochefoucauld
Kuama’ om lohna munah khattangin tangteen nuam I hih kei buang leh gensiatna a thuak vive dingte ihi hi. Aneu alian, ulian sila a kuama peuh in I tuahkhak ding thu ahih manin pelh sawm sangin laksiam dan kisin zawvet leng manpha zaw ding hi.
Na gen/gelh thute hong kigensiat ciangin constructive criticism maw destructive criticism telsawm masa in la, a masazaw ahih leh lungdamtakin saang in la, kipuahpha pah in; a nunungzaw ahih leh kam kilawm takin hong gensiatna ahang dong hamtang in la, mimalin hong mudah ahih phial leh zong Topa tungah aap mai in, tua hi kei leh na thuakzo kei ding hi. “Thukkikna in keima a’ ahi hi” Topa in ci hi.
Huihmut den singkung akip mah bangin, neu tung pana gensiatna a thuakzote mipicing suak nuam zawsop uh a, gensiatna in puuksak zolo hi . Gensiatna pen lauh ding leh kihtaak ding hi peuhmah lo a, limlang banga neih ding hizaw hi.
Gensiatna na tuah ciang:
Limtak ngai/sim in: Hong gensiat ciangun limtak ngai masa in. Email tungtungin ong kigensiat leh nih vei thum vei beek sim phakik in, kamsiamloh/gelhsiamloh manin mitampi kitelkhial uh hi. Psychologist Dr. Harold H. LeCrone in, “Gensiatna masuan dan hoih penpen in: Limtakin ngai masa ding. Tua ciang, ‘hih thu a phalamin bangci zang ding ka hiam?’ ci-in nang le nang kidong ding” na ci hi.
Thukkik pah ke’n : Hong gensiatna na zak ciang thukkik pah kenla, minute khat beek ngak phot in, ahih theih leh na dang ngaihsun/sepsan photphot in la, na hehna a daih ciang kam kilawm takin dawngkik pan in.
Na lungsim tangzaisak in: Na manpha mahmah na sep kimlai na lamet het lohin gensiatna tuak vat thei veve hi teh. Na ngaihsut bangin mikhempeuhin ngaihsun lo hi cih phawk in. Superman nangawn in gensiatna tuak kici hi, a bawmbisunten(underpant) pen mikhempeuh muhin teeng thapai den keei ci-a thangpai honkhat mah na om veve hih tuak!!! Tua ahih manin, ‘aw, ahi thei mah ding hi veh e’ ci in la, na lungsim zaisak in.
Kipaak in: Mawk peuhmah!! Banghang kipaak zenzen ding I hiam cih leh hong gensiate in hong phawk mahmah uh cihna hi. Hong ngaihsut luat manun hong sai nuam uh na hi gige hi. Hih thu tel lecin, “hong gensiate samsia kik lo-in thupha tawh thukin la…” cih la nuamtakin na sa thei ding hi!
Thu manpha muh sawm in: Lawmta nih gungeiah kitawng uh a, khat pa in sehneel a khut dimtak phamin a lawmpa a den leh a puan tengah buan bang khin hi, tuapa in thukkik loin a puan damtakin suah a sehnel baangteng lakkhiat sawmin a tenten leh suangmanpha tengkhia mawk hi! Tua leh amah a deng, a lawmpa’ kiangah pai in lungdam va ko kik kici hi. A lawmpa’n deng keileh suangmanpha ngahlo ding hiven!! Gensiatna ah thumanpha om den hi, teng in la, muh sawm in.
Picing takin saang in: Leo Babuta in hih bangin na gen hi: “I thu gelh khat peuhpeuh hong gensiatsak ciangin mimal suksiat nopna sa kha pahpah hi hang. Hikhin samlo hi, tualamin ngaihsun lo ding hi hang. Na thu gelh khat peuhpeuh hong gensiatsak uh leh Nang hong kigensia hi lo a, Na gelhkhiat thu pen a gensia hizaw uh hi cih phawk in.”
Mikhat peuhin mipi mai ah ahi zong groups mail tungtawnin ahi zong hong gensiat leh I dikna pulaakin naakphatakin thukkik pah lo ding I hiam? Hilo hi! Na dik sawmvei ta zongin na thukkik pah tangtang leh amah tawh kizakim lel ding hi teh. Meitui tawh mei buak lehang nasia semsem a, tui tawh buak lehang mitpah hi cih phawk ni.
Leo Babuta mah in a genna ah, blog pan ahi a, email pan ahi zong ka thu gelh hong gensiatsakte tungah lungdam ka koh zel tak ciangin thu nih ka mukhia hi:
I) Hong zahtaak bawl uh a, ka blog lengla (visitor) kician penpente hong suak zawsop uh hi.
II) Siatna pen hoihna tawh ka thukkik tak ciangin ka sungah lungnopna thusim om hi. Kiselsel leng I zo ta zongin lungnuam cih om ngeilo hi.
Mother Teresa I bang zo kei zongin a kammal tawh I thu khup ni: “Kuate’n bangbang hong gen ta leh, maitai takin saangin la, na maban limtakin sem in”
Mungpi Khupson
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